‘You Must Love In Such A Way That The Person You Love Feels Free’- Thich Nhat Hanh
Freedom and Love go together; hand in hand. It’s important that you give freedom to the person you love. Loving someone means to give them the freedom to choose whom they want to be with and where they choose to go.
Different people have a different definition of ‘freedom in love’. For some it may mean letting the person do whatever they want to do with a few restrictions, whereas for some it may mean living for each other yet giving them their own space and not forcing themselves upon on the other.
They say freedom doesn’t mean the absence of restrictions. It means possessing unshakable conviction in the face of any obstacle. The commitment of each partner in a relationship doesn’t need to be petrifying, substantial or make them feel duty-bound, but it should be a process of directing energy that creates freedom. Love gives freedom and love that doesn’t provide freedom is not love at all.
People are too afraid to give freedom these days because freedom cannot be controlled and is highly unpredictable. There is extreme possessiveness for the person they love, and they feel that they own the person like any other material product.
From my past relationship, I have learnt that for a healthy relationship there should be no place for jealousy, possessiveness and restrictions. They are not signs of love, but are signs of ego and are the biggest enemies of love. True love of any kind should make you feel free. A healthy relationship will encourage each other to be the best they can be. Trust, honest and open communication about how they are feeling, supporting each other in bad and good times should be the utmost priority in a loving relationship in which they both also feel free.
Because love means… FREEDOM!
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